Women Who Were 'Tradwives' And Got Divorced Are Sharing How And Why They Left Their Marriages, And It's Both Eye-Opening And Infuriating

Content warning: this article contains mention of abuse and sexual assault.

Recently, I wrote an article sharing stories from people who actually were 20th-century “tradwives” about what the lifestyle was like for them. Their stories prompted me to ask divorced members of the BuzzFeed Community who have been trad- or stay-at-home wives what it was like and how their relationship came to an end. Here are their stories.

Please note: some responses have been edited for length and/or clarity.

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