What To Do If You're No Longer Feeling Attracted To Your Partner

The beginning of a relationship is often full passion: thinking about each other constantly and wanting to spend every waking moment together — in and out of the bedroom. It’s all-consuming.

But more often than not, that type of heady attraction fades with time.

“In long-term relationships, it’s not uncommon for attraction amongst partners to dissipate,” Nazanin Moali, a Los Angeles-based sex therapist and host of the podcast “Sexology,” told HuffPost. “We take for granted that just because we were attracted to our partner once, the same attraction will stay forever without effort.”

Below, therapists explain why a loss of attraction happens, what to do when it does and how to know if the spark in your relationship can be salvaged or not.

Why People Become Less Attracted Over Time

You’ve become bored with each other.

Stability and security are important ingredients in a healthy long-term relationship, but gettingtoo comfortable with each other can make the partnership feel predictable and stale.

“As human beings, we are wired to like and crave novelty,” Moali said. “The feeling of too much familiarity with a partner might negatively impact our attraction towards them.”

You have unresolved resentment.

Relationship conflicts — whether they’re about money, infidelity, sex, parenting decisions, family drama or unequal division of household responsibilities — can breed resentment if not worked through in a fair, respectful manner.

″[It] makes you feel distant from or angry at your partner and translates to decreased attraction,” said Samantha Rodman, a psychologist in North Bethesda, Maryland.

You stop interacting like romantic partners.

It’s all too easy for busy couples to slip into taskmaster mode and stay there,