Vacation Sex Is Just Better. Here's How To Make It Almost As Spicy At Home

Let’s state the obvious here: Vacation sex is just better than regular at-home sex. (Those “Do not disturb” door hangers exist for a reason.)

Maybe it’s the fact you and your partner are already primed to embrace spontaneity and exploration during getaways. Maybe it’s the buzz from the minibar or that lobby bar cocktail. Maybe it’s the knowledge you don’t have to set your alarm for a full week.

Nazanin Moali, a psychologist and sex therapist in Los Angeles, thinks it’s due to the fact that a vacation is essentially an escape from everyday stressors that may hinder intimacy.

“During getaways, we tend to unwind and detach from our usual routines, allowing us to fully engage with our partners,” she said. “This heightened presence fosters deeper intimacy and connection.”

Moreover, vacations typically involve shared quality time and activities that strengthen emotional and physical bonds. When you get home from your hotel rendezvous, sex seems comparatively humdrum and rushed.

It doesn’t have to be that way, though. Below, sex therapists, including Moali, share a few ways to re-create the fun of vacation sex without any of the travel costs.

Discuss what makes vacation sex so pleasurable for you.

Don’t wait until you’re home and unpacked to reminisce about all the kinky sex you had on vacation. Talk about how good the sex is in the moment, while you’re still on vacation, said Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist and the author of “Sex Talks: The Five Conversations to Transform Your Love Life.”

After sex, Marin said, ask each other: “What do you like about it? What feels different about it? And what can you do to bring a taste of that back home?”

Let the conversation continue when you’re home, said Jane Henderson Burnham, a