People Who Went No-Contact With Their Parents Are Revealing The 'Final Straw' Moment That Led To Their Decision, And I Have No Words

Warning: This post contains mentions of abuse.

We recently asked the BuzzFeed Community to tell us the “final straw” moment that made them go no-contact with a toxic parent. Here are the shocking — and heartbreaking — results:

1. “My father told my mom, whom he’d been married to for over 40 years, that he had found someone else who was ‘loving and communicative’ IN A LETTER. He is a narcissist who did nothing but bully my amazing mom for years. He gave her that letter, and she told him she’d read it when she was ready (he had moved out at that point), and he continued to act like nothing was different despite knowing full well what he had written.”“He’d done a lot of horrible things up to that point, but cheating on her was the last straw for both me and my brother. I found out today that he has essentially joined a whole other family while leaving the rest of us behind. He’s such a coward and a sad excuse for a human being. Have been no-contact for months, and it’s been the best decision.”

—39, Canada

2. “I’d grown up with my parent frequently lying to people outside our family about big and little things. Some were scams on good people, and I had to cosign the lying frequently. We had a general rule of keeping family business within the family. Fast-forward 20 years, and I learned I’d been being lied to as well about everything, including the circumstances of my birth, my parent’s relationship, and subsequent divorce.”

“What is worse, they had been gaslighting me for YEARS about these things, even when I asked direct questions. When I finally became a parent myself, that was it. I couldn’t take it anymore and ceased all contact. Yes, I realize my parents will lose out on their grandchildren, but I cannot force them