Men Are Sharing Difficult Parts Of Modern Dating, And As A Woman, I Never Thought Of Some Of These
Dating is TOUGH, especially in this day and age. But personally, I can only speak to my experience dating as a woman. So when Reddit user u/jayrod699 asked, “What’s been the hardest part of dating as a man?” I was super curious to see what it’s like from another side. And some of the responses were actually super sad. Here’s some of what the guys had to say.
1. “The constant rejection. Get rejected a thousand times and you get more than a little gun-shy. The worst is when they assume it must be a joke. Because you have to be joking if you think she might be interested.”
—u/rhb4n8
“I have seen female friends cry for hours over the fact that one guy said ‘no’ when they asked him out, and how awful it was and how guys could never understand how they feel. Lady, guys get rejected all the time — we know how it feels.”
—u/PurahsHero
“I had a couple of first dates last month, and all of them gave me their number, some of them said that ‘we should meet again’...none have replied when I’ve asked about going out on a date somewhere or offering a dinner. It’s been a month, and some of my messages are still marked as unread on WhatsApp.”
—u/LuphineHowler
2. “For men, it’s the absence of opportunity on dating apps — the staggering lack of matches; the occasional match that goes unreplied; the conversation that evaporates after saying hi; the ‘maybe date’ that never materializes. It’s also the fear of social alienation or punishment in real life, as the internet has socialized young men to view approaching women as harmful or annoying (a courting faux pas). This puts men into a losing position as they don’t approach and are left unapproached — essentially a ship sailing alone, afraid to hail other ships and ignored by those that sail