Jennifer Lopez Sheds Light On What Really Happened After Calling Off 2003 Wedding To Ben Affleck

Jennifer Lopez is revealing what really happened after she and Ben Affleck called off their wedding days before it was set to take place in 2003.

“We didn’t break up right at that moment. It happened over the series of the next few months,” Lopez said in a new Apple Music interview with Zane Lowe, released on Wednesday.

“What it did was it casted doubt in me ― and both of us ― about what our relationship was and where it was going,” Lopez added. “And I knew in my heart that I wanted to be with him for the rest of my life… But it didn’t feel like we were going to make it. And so, it scared me.”

Lopez said the experience was “very hard” because it involved “letting go of somebody that you truly love because you just can’t figure it out.”

“You just don’t have the capacity and the ability at that moment, emotionally, to figure it out. We just weren’t mature enough in that way,” the “Marry Me” star said.

Lopez explained that despite their ages ― Affleck in his late 20s and Lopez in her early 30s ― they couldn’t figure out how to make their relationship work.

“We just weren’t there yet. And so, we go, ‘Oh, this is what people do, they break up when things get hard, and we’re going to go our separate ways,’” she explained. “And we went, and we both tried and found other people and had beautiful children, and had other families, and even had other relationships after that.”

Nearly two decades later, Lopez said that the two were finally in the right place to find each other.

“It wasn’t until both of us had done, I know for me, a lot of work and got into a place where I was like, ‘You know what? I’m totally good on my own,’” she said.

“I’m chill, I love my life, I have this amazing career that I’ve built for myself, I have