15 People Admitted How They Feel About Their Partners After They 'Settled,' And I Commend Them For Their Honesty

We recently asked the BuzzFeed Community: “If you’re someone who ‘settled’ in a relationship, how do you feel about your partner today?”

Well, everyone’s experience was totally different and shed a light on how someone’s feelings toward their partner can change over time. Whether they’re currently in their “settled” relationship or have broken ties, their stories were still eye-opening. So, here’s what they had to say:

Note: Some stories were pulled from this Reddit thread by user u/pillowofdark and this Reddit thread by user u/Watson_A_Name.

1. “He had all of the traits I wanted in a significant other, but I just wasn’t attracted to him in that way. I tried convincing myself that it was because he was genuinely a good guy, but I was flat-out lying to myself. We’d kiss and I’d feel nothing. Cuddling? Nothing. Hanging out? Nothing. I thought my feelings would grow and they just never did (Trust me: I WANTED to like him).”

“He was so genuine and all of my friends were telling me he’s good for me, but my heart just wasn’t in it. If you’re thinking about ‘settling’ (ESPECIALLY after getting your heart broken), don’t. I didn’t like him for who he was as a person: I liked him because he was nice and convenient. Just don’t ‘settle’ — you don’t have feelings for them for a reason. You’ll just end up wasting everyone’s time.”

—Anonymous

2. “I guess I ‘settled’ (I don’t like to think of it that way, but in the beginning my partner was very different from me and did not align with the goals I had in life). I was not immediately attracted to them, and thank god for that, because I’m much happier now than I think I would have been otherwise. I’ve learned quickly that love is an action and a choice, and my life and relationship are