13 Little Things Couples Who Have Been Married 30+ Years Do Every Day

As any longtime couple will tell you, a strong relationship isn’t about the once-in-a-blue-moon grand gestures, it’s built on the small actions you take on a regular basis.

We recently asked our Facebook community to share the little daily rituals that keep their bond healthy and happy.

As reader Andrea G. said, “It’s hard work to stay married to the same person for this long, don’t get me wrong. But these simple things help make it at least a tiny bit easier.”

Here’s what we learned:

1. They daydream about the future together.

“We daydream and talk about all of the things we want to do professionally and personally while knowing very well that we don’t have the energy nor the finances to do any of it. Still we dream together and that keeps us going.” — Lama H.

2. They make each other laugh.

“We find something to laugh about every day, even if it’s just a groan from a bad dad joke.” — Heather W.

“52 years in August. Laugh at yourself and laugh together.” — Ma P.

3. They have coffee together in the morning.

“32 years here. We make time to sit down and drink coffee together most mornings for a few minutes and try to eat dinner together in the evening most nights. The calm touch points at the beginning and end of the day really help us to stay connected. I certainly recognize it would be much harder to do with small children in the house but worth trying to do whenever possible.

“We also always try to have a vacation, trip or event being planned for the future so we have something to discuss that isn’t the kids or work. It’s hard work to stay married to the same person for this long, don’t get me wrong, but these simple things help make it at least a tiny bit easier.” —Andrea G.

4. They eat meals together.

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